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When Homeschool Doesn't Go As Planned

To the Mom Whose Homeschool Doesn’t Go As Planned…

I see you mom, the one who is at her breaking point.

Every day you feel like it’s a battle of the wills to get anything done. You feel like “everyone” was right when they said, “you shouldn’t homeschool.”

I see you mom, the one who is crying in her bedroom after a reading lesson with her child was a struggle. Right now you are questioning everything and the loudest question resonating in your head is, “Am I even enough?”

I could go on and on with scenarios of struggles in homeschooling, many of which I have experienced myself. The reality is, whether it is your first year homeschooling or your tenth, at some point, we will all face them. Even the best-laid plans are not exempt from feelings of inadequacy and defeat.

We can’t control the curveballs, but we can control how we react to them.

(Because it isn’t “If Your Homeschool Doesn’t Go As Planned” — it is “WHEN Your Homeschool Doesn’t Go As Planned”. This scenario will happen to every homeschooling parent.)

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As homeschool parents we encounter such an array of roadblocks. Perhaps the one that stings and hurts the most is when we encounter opposition from our own child, a resistance to learn.

Or, perhaps facing opposition from family and friends on our decision to homeschool in the first place. We long to feel supported and when our decision is questioned it can leave us feeling very alone.

From a practical standpoint, it can help immensely to find or get plugged in with other homeschool families. But when that isn’t possible, it can be important to remind ourselves of our purpose for homeschooling in the first place.

Have you faced any of these doubts/roadblocks?

Remember Your “Why”

One of the most valuable truths I like to reflect on during seasons of defeat and overwhelm is what lead me to homeschool to begin with. When we take a moment to really reflect and understand how we got here, it can be almost renewing.

So what is your why?

(I remember Mary - in her post, 10 Simple Homeschool Tips , encouraging us to post our “why” somewhere we can always see it - by doing this we will keep the big picture in mind when days get tough.)

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Count Your Blessings

As a mom of 6 children, you can bet that I experience an array of tense moments. Whether it’s trying to “get it all done” or the constant interruption of little ones (check out these tips for homeschooling with babies and toddlers , counting my blessings seems to put my attitude back in check).

So what does focusing on your blessings look like? It’s actually quite simple. In the midst of all the crazy, there is still and always will be, good. Regardless of our current circumstances, we can always look for blessings or on the bright side.

While I say it’s simple, actually putting it into practice can feel difficult which brings me to the most important part, the heart focus. It’s crucial that we focus our eyes on the One who provides the blessings in the first place.

You will not accomplish much if your relationships and heart aren’t tended to first.


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Focus Your Heart

We must fix our gaze on the Father who is ultimately our purpose, our Comforter, and our Sustainer.

(Do you have TIME each day to do this? Sometimes that’s a very real stumbling block.

Instituting a QUIET TIME for everyone in the house is a wonderful way to get the time you may desperately need to focus your heart.)

I won’t deny its difficulty, and it’s ok to feel hurt and overwhelmed. But ultimately, we can’t stay there. Psalm 121 is a beautiful example of lifting our eyes to the Lord. In Isaiah 41 He tells us he is holding us in His right hand.

But it’s important to acknowledge that while those verses tell what He does and provides, there are still many calling for us to “do” as well. Colossians 3:23-24 are verses I refer to often with my children,

Whatever you do, work heartily, as for the Lord and not for men, knowing that from the Lord you will receive the inheritance as your reward. You are serving the Lord Christ.

When we take these words to heart we see that we are to work FOR the LORD which must mean we are working against opposition.

Let’s keep our eyes and hearts focused, driven, and intentional.

And let us not grow weary in doing good for in due season we will reap, if we do not give up. Gal. 6:9

So while I see you and understand your struggles, Christ sees you even more.

Take my yoke upon you, and learn from me, for I am gentle and lowly in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. Matthew 11:29

If you are looking for more encouragement and practical tips in Christian homeschooling and homemaking, I would love for you to check out my YouTube channel, Pennies and Salt.

Blessings,

Megan

Helpful Resources

These books are wonderful addition to the homeschooling mom’s library.

Some provide very practical bits of information in a devotion format, while others are sweet stories about the beauty of home education.

This post is from Homegrown Learners’ contributor, Megan.

Megan is a homeschool mom of 6, wife to Jon, former public school teacher, and follower of Christ. Homeschooling and homemaking are areas that the Lord has drawn her to be passionate about and it is her desire to be as intentional as she can in both.

She enjoys cooking, reading, gardening, history, and hiking in the beautiful mountains of East Tennessee. In her spare time, she is also a content creator for her YouTube channels Pennies and Salt , as well as her website, Pennies and Salt.

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All The BOOKS! (A Bookish Update)

I owe you a reading update. It’s been three months since I last posted about my reading life.

(I’ve been too busy reading to write a post - wink.)

All those cliche things you see about book lovers? They are all probably true about me - and I’m guessing if you’re reading this they are probably true about you, too.

My big focus for 2021 has been to cultivate a more intentional reading life. It was helpful to state those 5 goals in January because I look back at them often; they have been guiding principles for the year.

All the Books: A Bookish Update with Recommendations & More! #homeschool

Let’s go through each of those 5 principles and I’ll give you a report on how it’s going - and in the process I hope you can gain book recommendations, inspiration, and maybe some helpful tips for your reading life, too.

Note: If you are on Instagram, come follow my book account, Homegrown Book Picks. I post each book I read and a brief review. I think the #bookstagram community is a wonderful place to find books and connect with other readers. I also truly enjoy The Potato Peel Society Book Community on Facebook.

Include More Non-Fiction

I don’t gravitate towards nonfiction, but I want to be smarter (HA!) - seriously though, I do want to spend more of my reading time to intentionally learn, and I know that can come through nonfiction.

As a percentage of what I read, it still isn’t that much, but I’m getting better.

If you have a great non-fiction title to recommend to me, leave it in the comments of this post!

These are the nonfiction books I’ve read so far this year - I’ve put them in order from what I liked best to least. (I wouldn’t recommend the last three books, FYI.)

Make Time for Middle Grades

I’m loving middle (and high school) reading.

These books are DEFINITELY not just for young people. Many times it is a balm for my soul to read a beautiful middle/upper grades novel.

An author I’ve rediscovered this year is Michael Morpurgo. He has such a beautiful way of approaching difficult topics through story, and I can see his books leading to wonderful discussions with our teens in particular.

Once again - here are the books I’ve read so far this year, in order from best to least loved. There isn’t a book in this list I wouldn’t recommend!

Give Me All the Historical Fiction

Many of the books in the middle/upper grades category are historical fiction. The ones I will list here are just the books I’ve read for adults.

It’s hard for me not to read ONLY historical fiction, but I still want to read what I love. Does that make sense?

Again, they are in descending order. I don’t recommend Kristin Hannah’s The Four Winds - it fell into that category of “authors trying to pander to culture by including a popular agenda in their writing”.

I always love anything by Susan Meissner, so if you want to take an author and read everything by them, she gets my vote.

Allow a Little Room for Escape

Because we’re in the homeschool world maybe I should use the term “twaddle”.

Or, maybe a better heading would be guilty pleasures?

As I’ve gotten older I don’t have much patience for foul language or sex in books, but a couple of these books did have that, and I kept reading anyway because it didn’t outweigh the actual value I was getting from the story - if that makes sense. Almost all of these are books that are (or have been) “popular” in culture. The older I get I also don’t like reading what most of the culture is reading, either.

The only one of these books that I would definitely steer you away from is Mary Jane. I couldn’t get on board with what I considered negligent child-rearing in this book.

A Little Life really impressed me, but it was full of triggers and it was a difficult read. The main character’s life was so very hard - 800 pages of hard to be exact. You have to be in a very good place if you’re going to tackle this book. That being said, I gave it four stars on Goodreads because the writing was excellent.

Tackle Those Classics

I need to get better about reading classics.

It isn’t my go-to genre, but once I am reading a good classic, I wonder why I don’t pick more!

I Capture the Castle has been my favorite, with the books by Elizabeth Goudge (where has she been all my life?) coming in a close second. Actually, I enjoyed all of the books here with the exception of C.S. Lewis’ Out of the Silent Planet (I just have trouble with Science Fiction).

Again, I could use your help with a favorite classic - leave me yours in the comments below!

A Final Confession

Do you think there is a thing as reading too much?

My family teases me that I always have a book with me - and that when everyone sits down to play a board game I would rather be reading.

So, my confession is this: maybe I am compulsive about reading. Maybe I need to put down my book and be present with the people around me. Do you have this problem, too?

Then again, I look at all of the benefits of reading and think I could have much worse habits, right?

My Favorite Way to Read

Forever and always my favorite way to read will be a physical book.

I spend a lot of time at the library, our local Goodwill, and ordering books online. I am among the legions of people who are obsessed with owning books!

I do enjoy reading at night (and don’t want to keep my husband awake!), so I read a lot on my iPad.

My membership to Scribd has been invaluable to me. There are so many audiobooks and ebooks available, and it is only $9.99/month! So far this has been the most cost-effective (other than the library) way for me to get my hands on a lot of books.

You can try Scribd free for 30 days if you use this link.

I mentioned audiobooks, which I also find on Scribd and through the library. I listen in the car, while I’m doing laundry, and sometimes when it’s quiet at home and I’m just doing chores. There’s something about the audiobook experience I really enjoy, especially if I know the narration is done well.

Until the next reading update, I wish you much enjoyment and pleasure from your books.

And, if you get a chance, would you please recommend a book to me in the comments below?

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