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Teaching Communication Skills in Our Homeschools

When we think about preparing our children for the future, we often focus on academics — math, science, history, literature.

But underneath all of these subjects lies something even more powerful: the ability to communicate well.

Clear thinking and clear expression are lifelong skills. They help our children not only write good essays or deliver polished speeches — but also listen well, express empathy, and articulate truth in a confusing world.

And here’s the good news: you don’t need a “fancy curriculum” to do it.

What you do need is a consistent and intentional approach to communication throughout your homeschool journey.

Start with Listening and Conversation (Early Years)

Communication begins long before a child ever writes a paragraph.

It begins at the breakfast table, in bedtime read-alouds, and on long afternoon walks.

Read aloud every day. Let children hear language used beautifully and naturally.

Ask open-ended questions. “What do you think the bear felt when that happened?”

Encourage narration. After reading, have your child retell what they heard — in their own words. This simple act builds attention, vocabulary, and confidence. (We did this on a regular basis with The Story of the World!)

Model good conversation. Children learn how to listen and take turns by watching us.

Even at this stage, you can begin a family habit of collecting new words.

Keep a small notebook handy — or a section in your child’s homeschool journal — where you jot down interesting words from read-alouds, nature study, or everyday life. This is also one simple way to improve your children’s vocabulary!

This “word collection” helps children fall in love with language and gives them a growing toolbox of expression.


Build Strong Writing Foundations (Middle Grades)

Once children can think and speak clearly, it’s time to guide them in putting those thoughts into writing.

This is the season to build a solid foundation in grammar and writing.

  • Understanding how our language works — how sentences fit together, how punctuation gives clarity, how words carry meaning — empowers children to express themselves with confidence.

  • A good, consistent writing program will help you teach structure and form, while still leaving room for creativity. (We participated in the Essentials Program through Classical Conversations, and I consider it one of the single best things we did during our homeschooling years.)

  • Encourage your child to write regularly and thoughtfully: summaries of readings, reflections on nature walks, or short compositions connected to history and literature studies.

And don’t forget to continue with a personal word journal.

Older children can record new vocabulary from their reading, copy meaningful quotes, or explore words that fascinate them.

This strengthens spelling, expands vocabulary, and helps students appreciate the richness of language.

(Read this post for some more thoughts about developing our children’s vocabularies.)

Keep the atmosphere gentle but steady. Writing instruction doesn’t have to be complicated — it just needs to be intentional.

When students learn to use language precisely, they’re developing tools for clear thinking, reasoning, and communication that will serve them throughout their lives.


Add Debate and Public Speaking (Teens & High School)

As our children grow, we can help them speak up with courage and clarity.

You don’t need a debate league (though that’s wonderful if you have one).

You can nurture speaking skills at home by:

• Hosting family discussions around the dinner table on current events, books, or ethical questions.

• Encouraging oral presentations after research projects or unit studies. (We had so much fun during our Faces of History presentations, and they were excellent practice for my children!)

• Letting them teach a short lesson to younger siblings — they’ll learn to simplify and explain.

• Using opportunities like speech clubs or mock trials for practice.

Ramses the Great in our homeschool

Debate, rhetoric, and presentations help teens learn to think critically, defend truth, and speak graciously — skills desperately needed in today’s world.

And yes, even here, that little word journal can continue!

Teens might collect persuasive words, strong verbs, or phrases that inspire them.

Noticing good language is one of the best ways to become a thoughtful communicator.


Keep It Natural, Not Forced

Communication doesn’t have to be a “subject.”

It’s a habit woven into daily life — reading aloud, discussing ideas, journaling, presenting projects, and sharing thoughts around the table.

If we nurture these habits faithfully, our children will grow into adults who can write thoughtfully, listen carefully, and speak wisely — the kind of people who make a difference in their homes, communities, and beyond.

A Final Word of Encouragement

No one masters communication overnight.

But when our homeschool days are filled with conversation, story, and meaningful exchange, we give our children something no textbook can: the confidence to speak truth in love.

What are some ways you develop strong communication skills in your homeschool? Let me know in the comments below!

Favorite Middle Grades Books

What is a “Middle Grades” book?

A Middle Grades book is classified as one that is written for children ages 8-12. (simple, right?)

Anyone who knows me knows I love to read! It’s definitely my favorite pastime and I’ve logged over 100 books read annually for the past several years. I’ve passed on this love of reading to my son who just turned eleven. With that being said...we’ve spent countless hours reading together.

My son falls right in the middle of that 8-12 range - not only does he love middle grades books, but I do, too!

Favorite Middle Grades Books

C.S. Lewis once said

“A children's story that can only be enjoyed by children is not a good children's story in the slightest.” 

With that quote in mind, we’ve tried to find books that we both he, as an eleven year old, and I, as a...well much older than eleven year old, can enjoy together.  

The #bookstagram community on Instagram dedicates March to Middle Grades book reading.  We thought this would be the perfect time to share some of our favorites with you.  Many you may already be familiar with, but we hope we can add a few new titles to your TBR (To Be Read) stack as well.

(You can also follow me on Instagram, and also Mary’s book account, Homegrown Book Picks!)


Favorite Middle Grades Classics

These first few will come as no surprise to any reader of Middle Grades books.  They are tried and true and are considered “classics” for a reason. 

Anne of Green Gables by L.M. Montgomery

Anne is a precocious young orphan who is taken in by Marilla Cuthbert and her brother Matthew on Prince Edward Island, Canada.  She is, in my opinion, one of the most loveable heroines in all of literature.  She’s never quiet, fiercely emotional and always into mischief. 

If you haven’t read Anne yet, try the Audible original audio version read by Rachel McAdams.  It’s sure to be a delightful experience. 

Old Yeller by Frank Gipson

Be ready for the tissues with this one and know that the ending is pretty emotionally charged if your middle graders aren’t quite ready for that yet.  With that said, this is a great book for boys growing up and taking on more responsibility.  Travis becomes the man of the house when his father leaves on a long cattle drive.  He takes on the responsibility of his family, while also taking care of the ugly, rascal of a dog that shows up whom they affectionately call Yeller.  My son loved this one and it fostered great conversation between us. 

We followed this one up with a family movie night to watch the 1957 Disney classic movie.  You can also follow it up with the movie Savage Sam that is a sequel to Old Yeller.

Little Women by Louisa May Alcott

Little Women follows the March family of four daughters and their mother as they navigate the years of the Civil War with their father away. The sisters Jo, Meg, Amy and Beth’s personalities are as varied and different as they could possibly be. The first reading of this novel is a cherished treasure that only gets better upon subsequent readings. The March girls become family and Marmee, their mother, is so full of wisdom and guidance. Follow this up with a number of movie versions and it will prove to be a wonderful family experience with your older middle-grade children.


Favorite Middle Grades Series

When you read a great book only to find out it’s part of a larger series, what a gift!  Here are some series we’ve come to love. 

Harry Potter by J.K. Rowling

I would be remiss if I didn’t say that first and foremost that this is beyond a doubt our favorite series!  These books follow young wizard Harry Potter and his friends on their journey to defeat the evil Lord Voldemort and save the wizarding world.  My son and I spent countless hours...117 to be exact...listening to the complete series during the 2020 Coronavirus Quarantine.

We looked forward to an hour (or two or three) each day when we could get away from little sister and ride around with the windows down listening to Jim Dale transport us to Hogwarts. If you’ve only read the books yourself and never listened to Jim Dale narrate them you are missing out on a treat! The voices he gives to the beloved characters are just spot on.

These books can also be followed up with a movie marathon, just know that the movies get progressively darker and more sinister so judge for your own kiddos when they are ready for the movies.

Favorite Middle Grades Books

Percy Jackson: by Rick Riordan

After finishing up the Harry Potter series my son was looking for another series and I suggested this one.  I’d read Percy Jackson years ago as I’m a sucker for anything Mythology based.  This series follows Percy Jackson, the demigod son of Poseidon, as he learns about his powers and the mythical world he never knew existed.  They are packed with action as Percy and his friends go on multiple quests to fight evil. 

The audio versions of these books are good as well, although not as captivating as listening to Jim Dale.  The first movie was a great accompaniment, however, it doesn't follow the book exactly. 

Betsy-Tacy by Maud Hart Lovelace

These could be considered a classic as well.  Written in the 1940s about Maud’s life in Minnesota during the late 1800s.  These books begin when young Betsy and Tacy are only five years old.  You see them grow and change all the way through the last book that is Betsy’s Wedding. 

Much like the classics, these girls become personal friends and their shenanigans are lighthearted and lovely.  This book transports you to a simpler time and makes you wish for days gone by singing around the piano with friends and snacking on fudge.  I first read these as an adult, but wish I could go back and read them as a young girl! 

The Incorrigible Children of Ashton Place by Maryrose Wood

If you haven’t met the wolf children of Ashton Place you are missing out!  This is a six-book series following three siblings who have been raised by wolves and found by Lord Ashton on his estate.  Penelope Lumley is hired to be their governess and to try to teach them to act like humans. 

The mysteries surrounding the children abound from the very beginning.  Each book gets you a little closer to figuring out their true identity as well as Penelope’s. 

My son and I were both enthralled with these audiobooks read by Katherine Kellgren.  She immediately sucks you in with her British accent and makes it a very pleasurable listening experience.


Little House on the Prairie by Laura Ingalls Wilder

I couldn’t write a post on favorite middle grades books without including the Little House series. These could be included in the classics section as well. This series begins in the 1870s and follows Laura Ingalls and her family as they move west and strive to make it on the American frontier as a pioneer family.

The audio versions of these books read by Cherry Jones are fantastic. Her voice is perfect for narrating the pioneer life and the fiddle playing in the audio versions brings Pa’s playing to life. These are sure to enthrall even younger listeners as well. Our personal favorite to listen to is The Long Winter which has become a re-read for us during the cold winter months each year.

All-of-a-Kind Family by Sydney Taylor

My son and I read the first book in this series for school this year, and I had to see what happened to the family in the next four books.  Follow along as this Jewish family of five sisters grow up in New York City’s Lower East Side at the turn of the century.  Their unique personalities and the mischief they get into will keep you enthralled.


Favorite Historical Fiction

My son and I use historical novels to supplement what he’s learning in school. 

These have been some of our favorites!

The Great Turkey Walk by Kathleen Karr

The year is 1860 and Simon Green has just finished the third grade for the fourth time and decides he’s done with school.  He uses what street smarts he has to try to earn a fortune by walking 1,000 turkeys from Missouri to Denver to sell at a great price.  I had a blast reading aloud with my best rendition of Simon’s dialect.  My son got a kick out of it as well!

Caddie Woodlawn by Carol Ryrie Brink

Caddie is a tomboy.  She’d rather be outdoors with her brothers than indoors with the girls sewing and cooking.  She is brave and bold and she’s based on the author’s grandmother.  My son loved reading about the mishaps she gets herself into with the Indians.  She’s spirited and fun and will make you laugh and remember her as a fond friend. 

Echo by Pam Munoz Ryan

What a listening treat!  This book follows a harmonica as it makes its way through the lives of three very different children during very different circumstances.  Each facing daunting challenges, the harmonica brings something into their lives that help them to bear the burdens they must. 

The harmonica playing on the audio version makes it a must.

Honorable Mention

I couldn’t end this post without mentioning the books by James Herriot. He’s written so many wonderful books on his time as a vet in the Yorkshire Dales in the 1930’s and on. My son is a major animal lover and the heart that James Herriot puts into his books would make even a non-animal lover fall in love with them.

While not expressly Middle Grades, these books have appealed to our entire family. From James Herriot’s Treasury for Children to his Favorite Dog Stories, Cat Stories, and Animal Stories, you will be transported to a different place and time. With quirky farmers and their farm animals and pets, to his life with his veterinary partner and the goings-on of the town, you will be enthralled.

To go along with this experience you can watch PBS’s new show All Creatures Great and Small. Our entire family loved it and can’t wait for them to make season 2!

Favorite Middle Grades Books

More Middle-Grade Reading Ideas:


If you’re unsure about other Middle Grades books or any book recommendations for your children, don’t hesitate to check out Sarah Mackenzie’s The Read-Aloud Family.  Sarah, host of the Read-Aloud Revival Podcast, breaks her book into ages and gives great recommendations for each age level.  It’s an invaluable resource.  

Also, you can see look at the following posts from Mary here at Homegrown Learners:

Happy Reading!

Leave me a comment below with YOUR favorite Middle Grades book!

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This post is from our contributing writer, Allison. Follow her on Instagram to see the adventures of a book loving mom new to homeschooling