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Why in the World Would You Homeschool Your Children?

Why in the World Would You Homeschool Your Children?  Five Reasons You Should Teach Your Children at Home

"Why in the world would you homeschool your children?"

I understand the question. I really do. 

In fact, this was a question I  uttered many years ago - although I think it went something like, "Why in the world would THEY want to homeschool their children? I could NEVER do that." 

Ha. Life can be quite ironic. (Remember, we abandoned the public schools in 2009).

People criticize what they do not understand, therefore homeschooling receives A LOT of criticism!  And sometimes, it's not criticism, it's simply curiosity. 

I don't take offense when someone makes a critical (or curious!) statement about homeschooling , but I do consider it part of my role as a homeschool ambassador to dispel the myths and also preach the BENEFITS of homeschooling.

While our family homeschools for SO MANY reasons, perhaps if I give you our top five it will aid you in your ambassadorship - or perhaps in your decision to begin homeschooling your own children. 

And I want you to know -- if I can homeschool, I know YOU CAN, too! 

 


5 Reasons You Should Homeschool Your Children

Normally, the word CONTROL has negative connotations, but when it comes to the shaping of our children's hearts and minds CONTROL is absolutely necessary. 

Reason to Homeschool: Control

I spent countless hours on the phone with school board members, meeting with administrators, and contacting our state Department of Education when they raised my daughter's public school class size to 25. I was going through every appropriate channel to express my discontent and find out the reasoning behind this decision. 

Then, there was the time I had to actually request permission for my daughter to check out books from the school library that were above her grade level. 

Or, once I went to bat so the children could actually TALK in the lunch room. 

(I have lots of these stories for you, believe me.)

Now that we homeschool I don't have any of those worries. I control the class size, school situation, curriculum, and a million other things. 

I remember a very sweet woman at church saying to me (in kind of a sarcastic tone).... "You just had to have control over her education, didn't you?"

Well yes, I did.  And I make NO APOLOGIES for wanting that control over my young child's day. 

(Once I read  For The Children's Sake - given to me by the only homeschooling mom I knew at the time - I was SOLD on homeschooling. I HIGHLY recommend this book! )


Reason to Homeschool: Safety

Perhaps I'm a bit jaded, but after working in a public elementary school that was locked down while an escaped convict ran through the hallways and also working in a school system where a mentally ill man walked into the lobby of an elementary school and attacked several young children, I didn't want to be concerned for my children's safety on a daily basis.

My oldest was born shortly after the attack at Columbine. 

In this day and age, I want to know WHO has access to my children and that their environment is safe and protected. 

I didn't want my children to go to a school and sit through bomb threats, lock downs, and tornado drills.  

I also want to be sure the adults my child spends the bulk of their day with adults who have their best interest at heart. 

Call me protective? Thank you - I consider it a compliment. 

I make no apologies when it comes to protecting my children. 

 


Reason to Homeschool: FREEDOM

When you homeschool you are not a slave to the school "schedule". 

If you want to take a field trip that is 2 hours away, you can just DO IT. 

If you don't like a particular science curriculum (I was beginning to have huge problems with the teaching of ONLY evolution in our public schools), you can change curriculums. 

We are free to PRAY before a mock trial competition -- OPENLY! 

If your grandmother is very ill, you are free to go and be with her for however long need be -- and I guarantee you it will be of greater value than any "schoolwork" you could have been doing.   

If you don't understand a math concept you can STOP and pause on that concept until you MASTER it. 

If you are very interested in something... maybe it's horses or music or LEGOS;  you are FREE to pursue that to your heart's content, much as you would in the REAL WORLD when you are an adult! 

Now that's we've experienced the freedom of homeschooling for so long, I'm pretty sure it would be VERY difficult to return to a traditional school setting. 

And truthfully, that FREEDOM of ideas and thinking is what our world needs. 

A wonderful homeschool primer is Educating The Wholehearted Child. This is another MUST HAVE resource if you are homeschooling (or contemplating homeschooling) your children. 


We are only giving a limited amount of TIME on this earth, and homeschooling helps us to be good stewards of that time. 

Honestly, when we started homeschooling I thought I would experience a huge LACK of time... because I was still living in a very selfish mode. I thought I would lose time to myself, time to clean my house, time to pursue my interests, and time without my children. 

I was so very wrong. Not only are we seizing every moment with our children (who will all too soon be grown and gone), but we are also avoiding the WASTING of time. 

Reason to Homeschool: TIME

Homeschooled kids don't wait in lines to get their lunch. 

They don't wait for the very last child to finish their test. 

They don't wait while a teacher has to discipline a group of rowdy children. 

Instead, they are giving the gift of TIME.

Time to cuddle with mom and read books on a chilly morning by the fire.

Time to perfect that cursive they've so desperately wanted to learn.

Time to STOP and serve a family in need. 

Time to forge a deep bond with their siblings. 

 

Time to MASTER a concept rather than simply regurgitate it for a standardized test. 

Time to sleep in when their teenage bodies just need REST. 

Time to contemplate BIG ideas without unnecessary peer pressure. 

( The list could go on and on.....  )

One of my NEW favorite resources is Teaching from Rest, by Sarah Mackenzie... if you really want to know how to make the most of your TIME with your children, her book and audio companion are invaluable.  


 

The final benefit of homeschool is difficult to put into words. 

Reason to Homeschool: HEART

I homeschool my children because I want a front row seat in the development of their heart. I believe that through homeschooling their hearts are allowed to develop under careful, supervised guidance. 

I believe God called me to homeschool my children, plain and simple.  

Sometimes kids' hearts are tricky things (especially in the teen years), but it's such a benefit of homeschooling that we get to STOP whatever we are doing to train and guide that heart, or to give that heart care when it is broken. 

We can guide our children carefully through making (and keeping) friends. We can guide them through appropriate ways to treat others' hearts, and we can impart to them that their hearts are THE MOST IMPORTANT thing about them. 

 

 

What good is a 4.0 GPA, all the friends in the world, or a wall full of accolades if our children don't know that their HEARTS (and the hears of others) come FIRST?

I love so many of  Charlotte Mason's writings on home education - they are what first attracted me to homeschooling. The following quote is especially meaningful when we think about our children's hearts, and the environment in which they will spend their most formative years: 

Why in The World Would You Homeschool Your Children?  Reason #5: Their Heart

I'd love to know... what are your top reasons for homeschooling? Care to share a story about how your family came to homeschooling?  Let's start a discussion in the comments below!

 


This post is part of the iHomeschool Network's Why We Chose to Homeschool. Several of my blogging friends are also tackling this same subject, so pay them a visit by clicking the image below! 

Why We Chose to Homeschool


Why We Abandoned the "Ideal" of Public School

A lifetime ago I had a child in public school.

(could 7 years be a lifetime? sure feels like it.)

My husband and I never questioned the path our children would take.

Preschool, then public school. 

It had been good enough for us. It was what everyone else was doing. 

We now laugh out loud as we recall our decision to move our family to the "ideal"school system; to find the house where our children would be districted for the "best" elementary school. 

I, of course, was the expert on such things, because I possessed 10 years public school teaching experience, and a Masters Degree in Education.

You could say  I was "invested" in the system. I believed in the "ideal" of public education. If well-educated parents (such as my husband and myself) would abandon the system, what was to become of it? Surely we didn't want the system to collapse?

A lifetime ago my priorities were vastly different. My eyes hadn't been opened to a different way of life. 

I was living the American dream, but there was just one problem: it didn't feel so dreamy.

There was this nagging feeling that my kids just deserved BETTER, that our family was meant to be TOGETHER, and that our decision to send our oldest to school was WRONG. 

I quickly discovered I couldn't sacrifice my own CHILD for an IDEAL.

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The Decision to Leave Public School

That initial period of questioning the public schools was quite uncomfortable. After all, if THEY weren't going to educate my children, who would? 

We had two choices: private school (not financially possible at the time) or homeschool. 

HOMESCHOOLERS.  What a bunch of weirdos.  They were those moms that just couldn't let go of their children so they decided to keep them at home so they would have something to do.

(I know. It's embarrassing - such harsh words. I made so many judgments and said so many things I now regret.)

In my daughter's third grade year I volunteered A LOT in her classroom. I watched as my daughter grew increasingly frustrated with being BORED and having to deal with some behavior issues in her class that really disrupted others' learning.

We would sit up late at night and read lovely books (I later came to discover these gems were called LIVING BOOKS). 

We would fight about ridiculous math homework - after she had already been in school for 7 hours. 

We would try to find books to read in the school library from one particular section - because she could only be tested at her "reading level".

I was watching the school standardize my child - little by little, year by year, and it scared me to death.

Thank GOD my Anna got a stomach virus in the beginning of that year, because then she was HOME. I started to think about what it was like if she would be home all the time and I LIKED that thought. 

I knew a friend at church who had such wonderful (homeschooled) children. She sensed my restlessness and gently encouraged me.  She gave me three books to read.  

I devoured these books on a long car trip we took as a family. I vividly remember talking my husband's ear off about homeschooling. 

The last straw came on a day when I had a conference with my daughter's teacher. We were talking about testing for the gifted program (which Anna had been through the previous year). The teacher told me (and it pains me to type these words) - 

Anna is by no means ‘gifted’, but she is a sweet girl and does anything to please me.

Wow. Talk about a sucker punch. I could handle the "not gifted" part, but I could NOT handle the fact that all this teacher saw in her was a well behaved child that was willing to please.  When I really stopped to think about it - who was a school system to tell me if my child was GIFTED or not? Moms told me they would be in a lower "track" of classes in middle school if they weren't in the gifted program.

It was as if they were determining her fate from the age of 8. 

Ridiculousness. Total ridiculousness. 

What was I doing at home all day (I was a stay at home mom who was working part time) that was MORE IMPORTANT than nurturing my precious child? 

It was at that exact moment that I KNEW we had to get her out of there.

We pulled her out of school at Thanksgiving break and NEVER looked back. 

How I "Started" Homeschool

I still had a son in a sweet little church 4 year old program, so I had Anna to myself each morning from 9-12.

Do you know what we did those first few months?

We READ. And we read some more.  

Charlotte's Web, Trumpet of the Swan, The Borrowers, The Cricket in Times Square & A Wrinkle in Time were among our favorites books during that first year.

And SHE read- the entire Harry Potter series. Twice.

She even read to therapy dogs at our local library - this child loved (and still does LOVE) to read!

We took nature walks. We played at the park. We enjoyed playing games.

I guess we did some "school" those first six months, but I was advised to let her detox from school - and I needed to get to know my little girl. What kind of a learner was she? What really made her tick? I couldn't believe there was so LITTLE I did know about her.

The following year my son was home for school, too. I purchased Sonlight curriculum and the living literature was a perfect fit for us.

He thrived on nature study, the freedom to explore the outdoors, and creativity.

 

We joined a fabulous co-op in our area and I found out that I had MUCH MORE in common with homeschoolers than I used to think! 

I had turned into one of those WEIRDO homeschoolers, and I LIKED IT! 

Those were magical times. They weren't all easy times (nothing ever is), but I do look back on them fondly, and if I am honest I am SO THANKFUL  my husband and I had the COURAGE to step out of a system that doesn't care one bit for my children. 

My husband encouraged me to start a blog because MAYBE I would want to document what we were doing.

Here I am - a little more than six years later.

Bless him.

Why YOU Can Homeschool

If you've been homeschooling for any length of time, you know  the conventional institution of school is completely UNNECESSARY if you want to educate your child. In fact, conventional school is actually a STUMBLING BLOCK in your child's education.  

It's full of standardized tests, silly requirements (hello - Common Core?), and hours and hours of wasted time. 

*I need to interject that I know MANY fabulous public school teachers who care deeply about their children and are good at their jobs.  I know there are some instances that simply prevent homeschooling from being possible. I do not advocate homeschooling as the answer for EVERYONE, but I do believe more people could - and SHOULD - be homeschooling. 

You only get ONE SHOT at educating your kids - why abdicate that tremendous responsibility to others? 

You can do it on your own. 

If you are contemplating homeschool, here's why I know you CAN homeschool:

  • You love your child and know them better than anyone else.

  • You are your child's best advocate.

  • There are ABUNDANT resources - both online and in your local community.

  • Any worries you have about homeschooling will pale in comparison to the worries you will have leaving your child in a system where you have little to no control over what they learn, who they are exposed to, and they ideas that are poured into their little minds.

  • You will learn and adjust and RISE TO THE CHALLENGE - and your child(ren) will learn from you in the process.

Free eBook - You CAN Homeschool

I've written an eBook - You CAN Homeschool: Encouragement for the Journey.

This book will equip you for the journey ahead, rejuvenate you if you've already been on the journey, and hopefully make you laugh a little, too. 

It's my gift to you, because I want to see you homeschool. I KNOW you can do it!

Simply subscribe to Homegrown Learners to receive your free download. 

Are you on the fence about homeschooling?

Have you been homeschooling for a little -- or maybe a long -- time?

Share your experiences with me in the comments below and let's get a discussion started!