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Why Schools Will Always Fail to Educate Children

It's a bold statement. 

Schools will always fail to educate children. 

Schools are effective in many areas, but not in the area of education. Schools function as economical child care centers. They disseminate and test standardized knowledge. Schools level the playing field with relatively great ease. Schools are successful in perpetuating groupthink.

If you want your children educated, however, don't send them to school. 

Nine years ago we decided to abandon the IDEAL of public school in favor of homeschool - precisely because I came to the realization the schools were never going to be able to EDUCATE my children.

This decision was not arrived at lightly. I was the product of public schools. I have degrees in education - an advanced one in Educational Leadership and Supervision. You might say I used to be heavily invested in the success of the public schools. 

I want to shake people who tell me why they can't homeschool, because I know it CAN BE DONE. Our children are precious and we must stop subjecting them to substandard public education which assumes so little of them. The future of our nation depends on it - and if I may be so bold - I think we are witnessing a steady decline in our nation because of generations of adults who have been educated by increasingly failing public schools.

At the end of this post I have a suggested reading list for you. These are books that I read before and during our homeschool journey. We must be educated ourselves and articulate why we do what we do. I pray this post emboldens and encourages you!

 

Why Schools Will Always Fail to Educate Children

Whether you are a veteran homeschooler or just contemplating this idea of homeschooling, you need to be aware of definitions and painful truths. I will do that here today.

Before I continue, let me clarify what education means to me. Definition of a term is important, and I hope we're on the same page with this one: 

 

Education is a process of inviting truth and possibility, of encouraging and giving time to discovery. Education is an ongoing set of social, moral and academic skills necessary for children to thrive in life.

 

Education is NOT obtaining a set of skills for a job. It is NOT acquiring the tools to be a productive citizen. It is SO MUCH more than that.


Reasons Traditional Schools Fail (and will Continue to Fail) to Educate Children

Why Schools Will Always Fail to Educate Children

 

Schools Are Built for Adults - NOT Children

I first heard this when I was pursuing my Master's Degree in Educational Leadership and Supervision. It was a problem plaguing public schools twenty years ago, and it still plagues them today.

Consider just a few ways we construct schools and school days for adults and NOT children:

  • Length of School Day - Shorter school days would be met with opposition from working parents who need children taken care of while they work - yet we know shorter days are better for children.
  • Classroom Setup - Control is much easier for teachers when children are made to sit in cramped desks in overcrowded classrooms.
  • Academic Agendas - All students in a classroom follow basically the same path - for the convenience of the teacher.  How in the world could one teacher create individualized education plans for 25 students in his/her classroom?
  • Busy Work - Teachers need to be able to keep all children "engaged" during the school day. To keep from mayhem ensuing, teacher assign busy work like word searches and crossword puzzles. UGH.
  • Testing - How do schools demonstrate they are performing? Test scores. Many times school funding and teacher pay are linked to test scores. Is it best for the children? No one really considers that, do they?

 

Schools Are Built on a Conformity/Commodity Model

The entire foundation of our American public school system (based on the Prussian model of education) began in New England in the 1850s.

Our nation needed a way to deal with increasing waves of immigrants. America needed a unified spirit and goal. The result of this was conformity. 

(If you look at schools today most of them have the same physical appearance - the same as prisons. They are designed to house and control large numbers of children. Honestly, next time you drive by a school ask yourself if it looks like an appealing place to spend nearly 8 hours each day - 9 months each year.)

The goal is this: children should CONFORM to the system and children are a COMMODITY which is run through the system over the course of twelve years. 

Step back and REALLY look at it. Is your child a unique child in a public school, or are they simply a cog in the wheel - a number to be counted and measured? 

As we know, children are created uniquely by God. Conformity really isn't such a good thing for children if they are going to develop their abilities and talents, yet conformity is encouraged and celebrated in public schools.

 

Reasons Schools Fail to Educate Children

The Eight-Hour Dummies

Please forgive my crass verbiage here. The term "eight-hour dummy", however, is one that was prevalent when I was a teacher. 

Simply put, if your child doesn't CONFORM, they will be given a label. This label explains why they don't FIT IN, why they don't learn the same as everyone else.This label means there is something wrong with your child and THEY must be fixed. There must be accommodations and modifications made. They might even be put in a different class of children.

These children, surprisingly enough, only have this "problem" at school - during the eight hours they are within the school walls. Once they leave the school they are just KIDS - with all of their foibles and the like. These "eight-hour dummies" are made to feel as though there is something wrong with THEM, something that warrants a label. 

A side note: many "eight-hour dummies" have turned out to be some of America's greatest thinkers and innovators. Funny how that works.

In truth, the vast majority of the time, the child is just being who God created them to be. The onus should not be on the CHILD to change. They simply do not thrive in the CONFORMITY model of public education.

My heart breaks for these children - many of whom don't have an advocate at home, or whose parents actually might buy into the belief  their child is flawed in some way. 

We lose these students down the line. They feel "less than" or they just give up altogether. It is perhaps the greatest tragedy of our education system today.

 

Most Schools Are Run by the Government
 

It is absurd to believe a bureaucratic government can possibly make well-informed decisions about education. Even though education is a function of the states, shifting national standards (hello Common Core) impact the delivery of education in a myriad of ways. 

Pesky things like money, politics, and egos come into play and once again the best interests of our children are left in the dust.

Once again, while the adults are sorting it all out, our children are growing and changing. Many times, if you seek to effect educational change in your own local school system your own children will be out of the system by the time the change is enacted. 

The popular saying - "Babies won't keep" is so true. Except in this instance we should say "Students won't keep." 


 

The Idea of "Education for All" is Just an IDEAL

The model of public education is a pie-in-the-sky ideal. 

I remember the argument I received from many when we decided to leave the public schools. It always went something like this: 

"If all educated and involved families abandon the public schools, what will education look like for the rest of the children? We all need to be invested in the system to make it work."
 

Well guess what. Here's a great response to that one:  "We are not willing to sacrifice our children for an ideal. My children are too precious for me to throw them into a system and pray change will come about, or for me to waste my valuable time and energy hoping for a change."

Can you IMAGINE the frustration bubbling just below the surface of so many of our public schooled children? 

Why Schools Fail to Educate Children

THIS is Why We Homeschool

After all of the things I witnessed as a student, teacher, and parent in the public school system, it was time to go. I am beyond thankful for the opportunity to homeschool my children. 

I am thankful to have been practicing my outside-the-box thinking for the past nine years. It comes in handy in so many other areas of life! The following books will be encouraging and helpful to you as you either travel down the homeschool road or contemplate taking the leap away from traditional school into homeschool. 

Because my oldest is approaching college age, we've also been having interesting discussions and discoveries about going (or not going) to college, and what the value of a college education might (or might not) be. Food for thought. I've included a couple of books for this, too. 


 

Rethinking School: How to Take Charge of Your Child's EducationWhat Does it Mean to Be Well Educated? And Other Essays on Standards, Grading, and Other FolliesHow Children Learn, 50th anniversary edition (A Merloyd Lawrence Book)Teach Your Own: The John Holt Book Of HomeschoolingYou, Your Child, and School: Navigate Your Way to the Best EducationExcellent Sheep: The Miseducation of the American Elite and the Way to a Meaningful LifeWhere You Go Is Not Who You'll Be: An Antidote to the College Admissions Mania

 

I'd love a respectful discussion of whether or not you think schools are capable of truly educating children.

Leave me a comment below and we'll get one started!

 

The Homeschool Trap (and how we're falling into it)

I've long been a proponent of staying in your own lane - in homeschooling and in life. The longer our family educates at home the more this becomes our battle cry. 

Autonomy. Freedom. Choice. Flexibility.

When we abandoned the "ideal" of public school it was immensely refreshing to immerse ourselves in the homeschool world. It took me at least a year before I realized we didn't have to do "school" at home and to truly embrace the lifestyle of interest led learning and wonder.

I've now been in the homeschool world a good amount of time, and I've discovered a disturbing trap - that I actually fell into for a period of time.

When I realized I was in the trap it felt a lot like when I had realized we were in the trap of public school.

 

The Homeschool Trap We Are Falling Into - and We Can Avoid It

The Homeschool Trap

I'm sure this isn't going to be a popular statement. 

Too many of us aren't staying in our own lane. We are too worried about what our homeschool friends are doing. We are too enamored with the latest program, popular method, or (dare I say) the blog with the largest following.

Here's a good analogy: Do you remember the economic collapse about 10 years ago? A few years prior to that time my husband (then a counselor with a non-profit financial counseling agency) saw it coming and told me, "Mary, people have to stop keeping up with the Joneses, because guess what? The Joneses are BROKE."

Homeschoolers are falling into the same trap. We're trying to keep up with everyone else and it's to the detriment of our children.

There. I said it. 

We are falling into the trap of following the crowd, being ruled by conformity and in many cases, fear.

 


Examples of The Trap

Lest you think I am picking on anyone in particular, I'm going to use MYSELF as an example. Here is how I fell into the trap.

We had been homeschooling for many years and then my oldest got to high school. We made the decision to join Classical Conversations - a good decision for her 7th and 8th grade years. Without re-hashing the story too much (if you want to read about it you can see my post on how we lost the wonder in high school), I decided to follow the crowd and blindly follow the program for her high school years.

This was entirely MY FAULT. No one twisted my arm. 

The Homeschool Trap We Are Falling Into - and How to Avoid It

I was too worried about what everyone else would think if we jumped ship. How could I abandon this beautiful model that was so popular? CC communities were sprouting up all over the place - surely something must be wrong with US if I felt the need to make a change. 

Why weren't we like the OTHER homeschoolers we knew? 

You might be falling into a similar trap if:

  • You find yourself reading blogs and social media accounts and putting their advice over listening to your own heart.

  • You make a homeschooling decision based on what most of your friends are doing.

  • You make a homeschooling decision based on FEAR - fear of your child not reading "when they are supposed to", fear of not being "on grade level" (whatever that means), fear of not getting into college - fear of not being accredited - fear of not being in the fear of any number of things.

  • You don't consult with your child and truly LISTEN to them on a regular basis.

 

Do you see that when you fall into this trap you are right back where many of you probably started - conforming in public schools and frustrated because you're child's best interests are not being served? 


 

How to Avoid the Trap

These years are too precious to waste them. In my experience you can avoid falling into the trap by doing several things:

  • LISTEN to your child. Become a student of your child. Know intimately what their particular bent is. Know what motivates them. Know what they love. The schooling should reflect that.

  • Put on your BLINDERS. Yes, it's fine to get ideas from friends and to learn from them. But remember - they are not your child's parents. Even if you have been homeschooling along the same path as someone else for many years, sometimes things change. Children change. Don't ever compare your child to another child - or your homeschool to someone else's.

  • Pray. As God to direct your homeschool every step of the way. I find myself constantly asking God for help and guidance multiple times a day. Let HIS be the first voice that directs you.

  • Educate yourself. Study what's out there - know the ins and outs of math programs. Know about the local homeschool opportunities in your area. Avail yourself of everything possible, because you never know when you might need it. Read. Homeschooling is a full time job! You need to be able to make an informed choice, with your child's best interest in mind.

  • Be present. It sounds so trite. Are you really PRESENT with your children? Are you learning with them? Are you fully involved in homeschool or are you trying to "fit it in" with your housework or hanging out on Facebook? Make time for homeschool. It's important.

The Homeschool Trap and How to Avoid It

I enjoy having regular dates with my children to listen to their feelings about how things are going. 

In a recent Starbucks date my son shared his interest in architecture with me - and we talked about how we could design a high school education around this interest. He was so pleased to have me LISTEN to him. I felt like we were truly partners in his education. 

I missed this step in middle school with my daughter. I was too busy dictating what I thought she should do (based on what everyone else around us was doing). I'm making up for lost time with her now.

Obviously, it has taken me time to get to this place. It takes faith and trust to walk this road.

We are taught to trust the "experts" - when in actuality we should be listening to God and trusting that still small voice that is the Holy Spirit.

Thank goodness for grace.


Recent Resources Keeping Me Out of The Trap

Many of you who follow the blog know that I've been reading A LOT the past few years! 

Because we are knee deep in high school with one and have another approaching soon I've been doing reading in this area:

The Listening Life: Embracing Attentiveness in a World of DistractionRecovering the Lost Tools of Learning: An Approach to Distinctively Christian EducationExcellent Sheep: The Miseducation of the American Elite and the Way to a Meaningful LifeWhere You Go Is Not Who You'll Be: An Antidote to the College Admissions ManiaThe End of Education: Redefining the Value of School

 

It is a brave thing to have courage to be an individual; it is also, perhaps, a lonely thing. But it is better than not being an individual, which is to be nobody at all.
— Eleanor Roosevelt

 

 

Have you found yourself falling into this homeschool trap? Care to share how? 

 

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