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Why in the World Would You Homeschool Your Children?

Why in the World Would You Homeschool Your Children?  Five Reasons You Should Teach Your Children at Home

"Why in the world would you homeschool your children?"

I understand the question. I really do. 

In fact, this was a question I  uttered many years ago - although I think it went something like, "Why in the world would THEY want to homeschool their children? I could NEVER do that." 

Ha. Life can be quite ironic. (Remember, we abandoned the public schools in 2009).

People criticize what they do not understand, therefore homeschooling receives A LOT of criticism!  And sometimes, it's not criticism, it's simply curiosity. 

I don't take offense when someone makes a critical (or curious!) statement about homeschooling , but I do consider it part of my role as a homeschool ambassador to dispel the myths and also preach the BENEFITS of homeschooling.

While our family homeschools for SO MANY reasons, perhaps if I give you our top five it will aid you in your ambassadorship - or perhaps in your decision to begin homeschooling your own children. 

And I want you to know -- if I can homeschool, I know YOU CAN, too! 

 


5 Reasons You Should Homeschool Your Children

Normally, the word CONTROL has negative connotations, but when it comes to the shaping of our children's hearts and minds CONTROL is absolutely necessary. 

Reason to Homeschool: Control

I spent countless hours on the phone with school board members, meeting with administrators, and contacting our state Department of Education when they raised my daughter's public school class size to 25. I was going through every appropriate channel to express my discontent and find out the reasoning behind this decision. 

Then, there was the time I had to actually request permission for my daughter to check out books from the school library that were above her grade level. 

Or, once I went to bat so the children could actually TALK in the lunch room. 

(I have lots of these stories for you, believe me.)

Now that we homeschool I don't have any of those worries. I control the class size, school situation, curriculum, and a million other things. 

I remember a very sweet woman at church saying to me (in kind of a sarcastic tone).... "You just had to have control over her education, didn't you?"

Well yes, I did.  And I make NO APOLOGIES for wanting that control over my young child's day. 

(Once I read  For The Children's Sake - given to me by the only homeschooling mom I knew at the time - I was SOLD on homeschooling. I HIGHLY recommend this book! )


Reason to Homeschool: Safety

Perhaps I'm a bit jaded, but after working in a public elementary school that was locked down while an escaped convict ran through the hallways and also working in a school system where a mentally ill man walked into the lobby of an elementary school and attacked several young children, I didn't want to be concerned for my children's safety on a daily basis.

My oldest was born shortly after the attack at Columbine. 

In this day and age, I want to know WHO has access to my children and that their environment is safe and protected. 

I didn't want my children to go to a school and sit through bomb threats, lock downs, and tornado drills.  

I also want to be sure the adults my child spends the bulk of their day with adults who have their best interest at heart. 

Call me protective? Thank you - I consider it a compliment. 

I make no apologies when it comes to protecting my children. 

 


Reason to Homeschool: FREEDOM

When you homeschool you are not a slave to the school "schedule". 

If you want to take a field trip that is 2 hours away, you can just DO IT. 

If you don't like a particular science curriculum (I was beginning to have huge problems with the teaching of ONLY evolution in our public schools), you can change curriculums. 

We are free to PRAY before a mock trial competition -- OPENLY! 

If your grandmother is very ill, you are free to go and be with her for however long need be -- and I guarantee you it will be of greater value than any "schoolwork" you could have been doing.   

If you don't understand a math concept you can STOP and pause on that concept until you MASTER it. 

If you are very interested in something... maybe it's horses or music or LEGOS;  you are FREE to pursue that to your heart's content, much as you would in the REAL WORLD when you are an adult! 

Now that's we've experienced the freedom of homeschooling for so long, I'm pretty sure it would be VERY difficult to return to a traditional school setting. 

And truthfully, that FREEDOM of ideas and thinking is what our world needs. 

A wonderful homeschool primer is Educating The Wholehearted Child. This is another MUST HAVE resource if you are homeschooling (or contemplating homeschooling) your children. 


We are only giving a limited amount of TIME on this earth, and homeschooling helps us to be good stewards of that time. 

Honestly, when we started homeschooling I thought I would experience a huge LACK of time... because I was still living in a very selfish mode. I thought I would lose time to myself, time to clean my house, time to pursue my interests, and time without my children. 

I was so very wrong. Not only are we seizing every moment with our children (who will all too soon be grown and gone), but we are also avoiding the WASTING of time. 

Reason to Homeschool: TIME

Homeschooled kids don't wait in lines to get their lunch. 

They don't wait for the very last child to finish their test. 

They don't wait while a teacher has to discipline a group of rowdy children. 

Instead, they are giving the gift of TIME.

Time to cuddle with mom and read books on a chilly morning by the fire.

Time to perfect that cursive they've so desperately wanted to learn.

Time to STOP and serve a family in need. 

Time to forge a deep bond with their siblings. 

 

Time to MASTER a concept rather than simply regurgitate it for a standardized test. 

Time to sleep in when their teenage bodies just need REST. 

Time to contemplate BIG ideas without unnecessary peer pressure. 

( The list could go on and on.....  )

One of my NEW favorite resources is Teaching from Rest, by Sarah Mackenzie... if you really want to know how to make the most of your TIME with your children, her book and audio companion are invaluable.  


 

The final benefit of homeschool is difficult to put into words. 

Reason to Homeschool: HEART

I homeschool my children because I want a front row seat in the development of their heart. I believe that through homeschooling their hearts are allowed to develop under careful, supervised guidance. 

I believe God called me to homeschool my children, plain and simple.  

Sometimes kids' hearts are tricky things (especially in the teen years), but it's such a benefit of homeschooling that we get to STOP whatever we are doing to train and guide that heart, or to give that heart care when it is broken. 

We can guide our children carefully through making (and keeping) friends. We can guide them through appropriate ways to treat others' hearts, and we can impart to them that their hearts are THE MOST IMPORTANT thing about them. 

 

 

What good is a 4.0 GPA, all the friends in the world, or a wall full of accolades if our children don't know that their HEARTS (and the hears of others) come FIRST?

I love so many of  Charlotte Mason's writings on home education - they are what first attracted me to homeschooling. The following quote is especially meaningful when we think about our children's hearts, and the environment in which they will spend their most formative years: 

Why in The World Would You Homeschool Your Children?  Reason #5: Their Heart

I'd love to know... what are your top reasons for homeschooling? Care to share a story about how your family came to homeschooling?  Let's start a discussion in the comments below!

 


This post is part of the iHomeschool Network's Why We Chose to Homeschool. Several of my blogging friends are also tackling this same subject, so pay them a visit by clicking the image below! 

Why We Chose to Homeschool


Homeschooling Teens: Don't Give Up!

How can it be that I am now homeschooling a HIGH SCHOOLER?

Homeschooling Teens: Don't Give Up! (the best is yet to come)

It seems like yesterday I was abandoning the ideal of public school and bringing my oldest (then in third grade) home. 

I hope when you read this blog you NEVER think I have it all together, because I most certainly DON'T.

Homeschooling a teen hasn't always been easy.  I am thankful I heeded the wise words of a mom friend, listened to that gentle voice of the Holy Spirit, and ultimately kept my daughter at home for school.

And, as we officially finished eighth grade this week, I am so proud to say we are homeschooling through high school and I AM EXCITED! 

I know homeschooling teens can present ALL KINDS of challenges, from hormones and mood swings, to difficult academic subjects, to just plain mental exhaustion. 

If you gain anything from today's Collage Friday post it is that I believe homeschooling our teens is WORTH IT.

This time in our children's lives is critical, and if we seek counsel, pray, research, and stay the course, I believe the fruits of homeschooling are numerous. 

 


Find Like Minded Homeschoolers for Support

I do know one thing for certain: if we were not part of a community of like minded homeschoolers we would not be able to effectively homeschool the teen years. It's so important for parents and children to have good friends - friends who can share your trials and successes, friends who will celebrate with you and friends who will hold you accountable. 

Challenge B Mock Trial -- Don't Give Up on Homeschooling Your Teens!

For us, our  Classical Conversations Challenge community is just such a place. 

In a nutshell we chose Challenge because:

  • We believe in a Classical, Christian education and love the mission of knowing God and making HIM known.
  • We believe that ultimately the PARENT is the teacher and we did not want to abdicate grading, transcripting, or anything else to a "school".
  • We love the DISCUSSIONS that happen each week between the students, tutors, and parents - deep discussions about important issues. 

Last week my husband and I had the great joy of attending the Challenge B Mock Trial. 

In the mock trial competition our children had been preparing an entire semester for this ONE day. We traveled an hour north to meet another Challenge B team and compete in a real courthouse, in a trial presided over by a real judge. 

And, even though there were times when it felt like I could have almost lost my marbles over mock trial - the end result was SO worth it!  (I don't think my Anna will ever forget the day she presented a pretrial motion in a murder case where a woman suffering from battered women's syndrome was accused of murdering her own husband. This is DEEP stuff, but I just love how we approached it together and with such care.)

I cannot tell you how proud I was to see our team present themselves in such a professional manner. They were competent speakers, writers, and thought well on their feet. They carried themselves gracefully and were such a credit to the homeschool community.  

And yes - they were still just goofy teenagers at heart, being silly at lunch afterwards and giggling themselves silly on the ride to the courthouse. 

As I thought about our journey to homeschooling and how far we've come, I had some observations that day - observations I just had to share with you: 

  • Do not buy into the belief that your children need to be taught by "real teachers" for high school. 

  • Do not buy into the belief that your children don't need as much parental guidance for high school. 

  • Do not buy into the belief that your children must experience "the real world" before they go on to college or whatever they will do after high school.

  • Do not buy into the belief that your children will be missing out on "socialization" if you don't send them to traditional high school.

Our teens need their parents, and they very much need a sheltered (yes, I did say SHELTERED) environment in which they can explore big ideas.  And, whether you think so or not, YOU are equipped to be their very best teacher, because no one else will care for them the way YOU do. 

 


Homeschooling Teens: Don't Give Up (the best is yet to come)

The Most Fruit Comes After the Hardest Struggles

Two days after mock trial my daughter was confirmed in the Lutheran church. We believe Confirmation is an Affirmation of Baptism - it's a faith milestone in our church, and one we celebrate! 

This year has been HARD in our home. It's been a year of three sick grandparents -- and all three of them GRAVELY ill at some point. It's been a year of new jobs, changed friendships, and some difficult life lessons.

It's been a year where my teen has learned that doing the right thing is indeed RIGHT - even if others don't do the right thing. 

We all needed a reason to CELEBRATE this past weekend; we made so many wonderful memories and it was a blessing that so many of our family and friends could join us for a celebration 

As I watched Anna give her talk during church on Sunday, and then as I watched her so gracefully engage with all of her guests on Sunday afternoon, I realized MORE huge benefits to homeschooling.

Again - I'm so glad we didn't throw the towel in when things got hard, because homeschool is just so WORTH IT.  (I feel like a broken record)

More observations I need to share with you:

  • Having a small group of faithful friends (whose families all have similar goals) helps you to become your best self - the encouragement, support, and genuine happiness Anna's friends showed for her on Sunday was heartwarming to me. 

  • Learning to interact with many different ages of people on a daily basis is an invaluable skill. Our homeschooled kids have ample opportunities to shake hands, look people in the eye, and think outside of their own teenage worlds. We don't grow up and interact with people of the same age all day long, and our kids are receiving this experience from little on!

  • Homeschool kids aren't confined to one PATH after high school - they have not done anything traditionally ever before, so why start when they turn 18?  Who says that after four years of high school you must go immediately to college? I'm even beginning to wonder about "college" in the traditional sense. We need more productive outside the box thinkers in our world, and I believe our homeschoolers are those thinkers! 

 


This has been a week of warm fuzzies all around, know what I mean?

I'm happy to be a homeschooling parent, and I'm so proud of my children.  

I realize this feeling won't always be there. We will have hard days -- hard weeks -- hard months -- but in the end I believe that homeschooling your teen is worth every ounce of effort we give. And, I think we are modeling for our kids that DOING HARD THINGS is worth it. 

We need to be training young adults who won't be afraid to DO HARD THINGS... young adults who aren't afraid to go against the standards of the world and stick up for what is right. 

Someone has recommended the book DO HARD THINGS for us to read this summer; I'm thinking this would be a great study for some homeschool teens. 

The sky is really the limit when it comes to educating these kids, isn't it? I love that we are so free to train them as we see fit, and to guide them into becoming the person God has designed them to be. 

What an honor - what a joy.


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Homeschooling High School: Don't Give Up!