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What If My Child Doesn't "Like" to Read?

Wouldn't it be lovely if our kids (especially our older ones) would just love to relax with a book? It's idyllic, really. I mean, if we do our jobs right as parents and model reading, read to our children, and make them read, they should just love it, right?

WRONG.

It is what you read when you don’t have to that determines what you will be when you can’t help it.
— Oscar Wilde

If this is the case, then many children of the current generation will become iPod games, SnapChat posts, and Twitter snippets. 

That's quite a scary proposition, isn't it? 

As a parent I am determined to fight this culture and fight for the heart of my child, and one way I can do that is through READING. (But what if my child doesn't like to read, you ask?)  I want to share with you one strategy that has worked wonders in our home, and I think if you stick with it long enough it can work in your home - for your children - as well as it has in mine.

 

The Single Most Important Thing You Can Do to Inspire Your Child to Read

Do Your Children Love to Read (or not)?

My first child LOVED to read. She begged to go to the library. She loved bookstores. She read all of the time. Quite naturally I expected my second child to possess the same love of reading. He did NOT.  I immediately panicked and wondered what I had done wrong in his earliest of days.  

Come to find out, some children just aren't naturally inclined to want to read. Imagine that. 

I can accept that fact - but what I CANNOT accept is me not at least trying to cultivate a sense of wonder, respect, and reverence for good books. 

Now, in my efforts to encourage reading I never would have said things like, "Sit down and read this book." or "I'll set the timer and you need to read for 30 minutes." or "How come you don't like to read? Your sister does!"

OK - I'm lying.  I DID say those things and I'm ashamed to admit that now.  I'm so glad I learned the error of my ways and began strewing books throughout our home.  (I also give my kids plenty of time to be "bored" - and during those times there are plenty of books to turn to.)

Have you ever heard of STREWING?

Quite literally strewing means "to scatter about in a haphazard manner".  I want to, however, change that definition for the sake of our reading goal...

"to scatter about in a manner that APPEARS to be haphazard but is really quite deliberate and intentional."

 It's  simple, and I wish I had always done this from the beginning.  I strategically started placing books around our home.  And, while it appears haphazard, there is always a method to my madness.

Read on...


The Single Most Important Way to Inspire; Your Children to Read

5 Places to Strew - Where do I Put The Books?

Books can go ANYWHERE.  

We have books in every.single.room of our home - and there is a reason for that!   I want reading to be the go-to thing for my children. Wherever they turn is a bookshelf or pile of books from which to choose a friend to spend a few minutes with. 

Places to strew books:

  • coffee tables/bedside tables

  • bathrooms (don't laugh!)

  • sofas/chairs, etc...

  • a bag in the car (you never know when you might have to wait somewhere!)

  • kitchen table (my kids love to pick up a book that is nearby to keep them company during breakfast)

 

5 Ideas for Strewing - How Do I Choose?

Interest 

What is your child interested in?  When my son was younger I would strew books containing baseball statistics and books about baseball legends.  Oh, and LEGO books were always a huge hit, too. Take your child's interests and capitalize on them! I recall once my son was asking a lot of questions about the Bible when he was very young... I left out his Children's Storybook Bible and he read the entire thing in two nights.

Season  

What season of the year is it?  Do you have fun holiday books to strew around the house?  Maybe Easter is approaching and you want to include books about rabbits, the Easter Story, or even something like Faberge Eggs - the sky is the limit!

Fine Arts 

Strewing books about artists and composers is always a good choice.  Coffee table art books, biographies, and "how to" drawing books are always favorites in our house.  Maybe you pick an artist or composer and strew information about them for a while - be creative! Leaving a book of Jack Prelutsky poems in plain view cannot be ignored. (You get the point.)

History/Science

Whatever historical time period you are studying gives you plenty of material for strewing.  This can be anything from basic fact books and history encyclopedias to early readers to more meaty books - depends on the age of your child(ren). Or, maybe you are learning about the solar system. Strew books all about that subject around the house. 

Funny/Silly/Just Because  

My youngest has an affinity for cartoon books - so once I strew several Garfield and Peanuts books.  He loves them still! What about joke books? Or, choose some favorite funny chapter books that might endear themselves to your children. There are also certain books that I just want my children to be exposed to that really don't fit in a category - PERFECT for strewing.


I hope I've given you an idea of how, what and where to strew. 

Another story ... about a 12 year old boy that still says he doesn't "like" to read but has been a victim of my strewing!  

Every evening our house closes down around 10 p.m.  We begin winding down the day at 9 p.m.. I leave a few of these books on my son's nightstand or in the family room. He is free to do whatever he would like between 9-10, as long as he is in his room and is electronic free. A couple of weeks ago I walked into his room and was so encouraged to see him reading a book - and the minute I set foot in his room he began telling me all these "cool" things he had found out about the presidents.  

(I've been choosing books to strew from our monthly book lists that Amy contributes for the readers each month - hoping he would discover them!)

THIS is the goal. 

We don't need to create young people who will want to devour The Iliad & The Odyssey (that would be nice, but not entirely practical) - we need to develop in our children the knowledge that a book holds many good things, and can bring them much knowledge and joy.  Books are wonderful ways to pass our free time, ways to connect with others, and ways to broaden our horizons.

We just need to give our children opportunities to DISCOVER and CONNECT WITH those books.

So, start strewing - you'll be glad you did.


Following are some of the many books we've strewn about the house over the years - not an exhaustive list by any means, just enough to get your wheels turning! 

 

The Everything Kids' Baseball Book: From Baseball's History to Today's Favorite Players--With Lots of Home Run Fun in Between!Big Book of Who: Baseball: The 101 Stars Every Fan Needs to Know (Sports Illustrated Kids)Ballpark Mysteries #1: The Fenway Foul-upThe Lego Ideas Book: Unlock Your ImaginationLEGO Awesome IdeasAwesome LEGO Creations with Bricks You Already Have: 50 New Robots, Dragons, Race Cars, Planes, Wild Animals and Other Exciting Projects to Build Imaginative Worlds365 Things to Do with LEGO BricksHappy Easter, Mouse!It's Not Easy Being a Bunny (Beginner Books(R))There Was an Old Lady Who Swallowed a Chick!The Jesus Storybook Bible: Every Story Whispers His NameGod's Story for Me Bible Storybook: 104 Favorite Bible Stories for ChildrenI Love Music: All About Musical Instruments Then and Now: Music Instruments for Kids (Children's Music Books)How to Draw Musical Instruments (Dover How to Draw)Story of the Orchestra : Listen While You Learn About the Instruments, the Music and the Composers Who Wrote the Music!Welcome to the Symphony: A Musical Exploration of the Orchestra Using Beethoven's Symphony No. 5Those Amazing Musical Instruments!: Your Guide to the Orchestra Through Sounds and Stories (Naxos Books)Lives of the Musicians: Good Times, Bad Times (and What the Neighbors Thought)Lives of the Artists: Masterpieces, Messes (and What the Neighbors Thought)The Kingfisher History Encyclopedia (Kingfisher Encyclopedias)Great Battles for Boys: WW2 EuropeGirls Think of Everything: Stories of Ingenious Inventions by WomenAmelia Bedelia Chapter Book Box Set: Books 1-4Ivy & Bean's Secret Treasure Box (Books 1-3)The Daring Book for GirlsNational Geographic Kids Just Joking: 300 Hilarious Jokes, Tricky Tongue Twisters, and Ridiculous RiddlesLaugh-Out-Loud Jokes for KidsKnock-Knock Jokes for KidsThe Everything Kids' Giant Book of Jokes, Riddles, and Brain TeasersHomer PriceCenterburg Tales: More Adventures of Homer PriceMake Way for McCloskey: A Robert McCloskey TreasuryDon't Know Much About the PresidentsDon't Know Much About the 50 StatesRoald Dahl Collection - 15 Paperback Book Boxed SetHorrible Histories Collection 20 Books Set PackThe TwitsRoald Dahl's Book of Ghost StoriesRevolting RhymesIt's Raining Pigs & NoodlesBe Glad Your Nose Is on Your Face: And Other Poems: Some of the Best of Jack PrelutskyRead-Aloud Rhymes for the Very YoungTreasury of Children's PoetryRunny Babbit: A Billy Sook5,000 Awesome Facts (About Everything!) (National Geographic Kids)Weird but True 7: 300 Outrageous FactsTime for Kids Big Book of Why (Revised and Updated): 1,001 Facts Kids Want to KnowNational Geographic Kids Everything Dogs: All the Canine Facts, Photos, and Fun You Can Get Your Paws On!Snoopy to the Rescue: A Peanuts Collection (Peanuts Kids)Snoopy: Cowabunga!: A Peanuts Collection (Peanuts Kids)Meet the Peanuts Gang!: With Fun Facts, Trivia, Comics, and More!Garfield Fat Cat Volume 1National Geographic Kids Everything Space: Blast Off for a Universe of Photos, Facts, and Fun!101 Amazing SCIENCE Facts for Kids: Science for KidsThe Ocean Fact and Picture Book: Fun Facts for Kids About Oceans (Turn and Learn)TIME for Kids Book of Why: Amazing Sports and Science: 250 Facts Kids Want to Know

 

Talk to me about your readers?  

How do you inspire reading in your home?

 Do you strew?

 


April Book List for Moms

Don't you wish you could take a reading retreat? 

My husband and I will be taking a trip (just the two of us!) for our 20th wedding anniversary in June, and I plan to just READ and lay on the beach.  I can't wait! 

I'm already picking out the beach reads I want to get lost in for those 5 glorious days.

Back to reality.... for now I'm at home and continuing to keep up my reading resolution.  The books I read last month range from a HUGE piece of historical fiction to a book written by a friend of mine - fun! 

April Book List for Moms

 

Historical Fiction

I've mentioned before this my favorite genre, and after all of this reading in 2017 I'm still convinced of that.

A Fine Balance

Rohinton Mistry tells the story of India in 1975.  There is so much I didn't know about this time in India's history, and so many interesting parallels between current situations in the world today. 

The writing is vivid, fast paced, oddly humorous, and poignant.  At 600+ pages it is quite long, but well worth the time investment.  If I had unlimited reading times I would have finished it in a few days, but it's taken me all month by reading a little each night and when I can sneak in a few minutes while waiting at my kids' activities.

It chronicles such a sad time in India's history -- for some reason it reminded me of Orphan Train, which also chronicled sad time in American history. 


Classics

I do double duty on this one - reading for my daughter's homeschool and my own enrichment. 

Out of the Silent Planet

Please don't send me hate mail, but I haven't enjoyed that much CS Lewis  (other than The Chronicles of Narnia) up to this point - I think it's an acquired taste and attention level. 

This book, however, was enjoyable to me and I would love to read the next in his space trilogy.  I was intrigued by the science fiction/fairy tale mix in this book. 


Professional/Personal Development

Professional and personal development are really one in the same when you are a homeschool mom and curriculum author and blogger. It's not hard for me to read these books because I learn so much and see so much of myself in them!

A Touch of The Infinite: Studies in Music Appreciation with Charlotte Mason

This book is speaking to my heart. In writing the SQUILT curriculum I use more of a Classical and eclectic approach - but I suspect I'm doing a lot of Charlotte Mason's principles without knowing it. 

That is true, but there is also so much I need to learn and this book by Megan Hoyt is such a wonderful primer on Charlotte Mason and music appreciation. I would recommend it for ANYONE, not just musicians. 

Lesson at Blackberry Inn: Adventures with the Gentle Art of Learning

If you enjoyed A Pocketful of Pinecones, Lessons at Blackberry Inn will captivate you as well. Karen Andreola always motivates me to be a more intentional, kind, patient, and quiet mother. 

Lost and Found: Losing Religion, Finding Grace

This book, written by my friend Kendra Fletcher (who is a wonderful blogger and podcaster in the homeschool space), is her moving story of tragedy that struck her family - not just ONCE, but multiple times. 

It is the story of her journey to lose her religion and find GRACE in the process.  

I was so proud as I read this book because I know Kendra's story personally - she sat with me years ago over lunch and shared it with me. To see her dream of a book finally in print makes me very happy.  I know you will love it! 

In her book you will learn about her miracle son, "Mighty" Joe - and I love that we can follow on now with Joe on Kendra's blog. 


As you can see, this month has been a lighter reading month, but I'm trying to give myself grace and just KEEP ON READING.

What have you been reading lately?  

Share it with me in the comments and I'll add it to my list!

April Book List for Moms