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Less Than Perfect Homeschool

The start of our school year is NOT going as planned. 

A series of events have made this perhaps the most off kilter start to school we have had in our homeschooling tenure.

(more on that later in the post)

Oddly enough, however, I've VERY OK WITH THAT. 

I'm learning to embrace life's curve balls, and yes -- embrace our less than perfect homeschool. 

Because - let's face it - LIFE IS LESS THAN PERFECT - and our response to life's events teaches our children so very much.  I contend that our less than perfect start to the school year might be even more valuable than my perfectly planned start. 

Less Than Perfect Homeschool:  When You Have to Adjust Expectations

Put that Type A Personality Aside

This is hard for me.

VERY HARD.

I'm assuming this is a Type A tendency, but I could be wrong. 

Right now we are taking on some large home improvements - carpet installation, new air conditioning, finishing a basement, and more. 

In addition to this, SQUILT Music Appreciation is growing by leaps and bounds and I'm trying to keep up with writing new curriculum for you! 

Our school area is all over the place and there are many interruptions. 

Oh - and did I mention I am having surgery later this week?  It should be pretty simple, but I will need a couple of weeks to recover sufficiently. The thought of not being able to do anything normally would drive me crazy.  Oddly enough, I'm ok with it right now.

Our Less Than Perfect Homeschool

(Above you can see the mess in my master bathroom (basically everything from the floors and beds in the bedrooms), an upstairs floor with no carpet, and my sweet boy smiling through the chaos!)

Five Tips to Help You Through the Chaos

  • School can be done at ANY time. Doing math on the weekend when there are no workmen around is OK. You can even continue doing school into the summer if you get a late start in August or September.
  • School can be done ANYWHERE.  My ninth grader (Challenge I) really needs quiet, steady school time right now because her work load is difficult. She has been going to her granddaddy's house to get her work done, which is a win-win because she gets quiet and he gets her company. 
  • Everything is TEMPORARY.  This chaos won't last, and in the next few months I will be moving into a beautiful new school room in the basement. 
  • Grace goes a long way.  I'm learning to give more grace - to my husband, children, and everyone else for that matter. 
  • Ask for help. People want to be a blessing and help. Trying to go it alone doesn't work. We are meant to live in community, serving one another. There is a season for giving and a season for receiving. 


Tips for Type A Homeschool Moms:  Less Than Perfect Homeschool

Memory Work System for CC

Less is More

In our homeschool, less truly is MORE.

As we get a slower start to the school year, I will be sure to focus on just a few things with my fifth grader (Foundations in Classical Conversations). 

(My 9th grader is on autopilot... a wonderful benefit of the Challenge program!)

Our first month or so of school will look like this:

Yes, I would love to get to our Latin & Greek Mythology resources, but I will have to put those aside right now to focus on my recovery and sanity as our house is in a bit of disarray.

(And that's OK!)


Final Thoughts - NO GUILT!

When life isn't optimal and you are homeschooling, sometimes the guilt can set in.

Do not fall prey to the guilt trap! 

Everyone's grass seems greener when you are struggling, doesn't it?

Less Than Perfect Homeschool:  Moms... don't feel the guilt!

I have some thoughts about that:

  • YOU are enough. Your children are benefitting just from being around you.  Nothing replaces a parent's love or influence. Don't let others advise you that maybe you should send your child back to school to make your life easier.
  • A lack of extracurricular activities is FINE!  Last year we cut organized sports in the spring because it was a very hard time for our family. Guess what?  It was just the peace that we needed, and my son had a chance to develop other interests and actually PLAY with friends and on his own.  Totally OK.
  • It is necessary to focus on YOURSELF.  You are the pulse of your home, and your health and well being are important.  Taking care of yourself MUST come before homeschool. 
  • Kids are very capable of helping.  My children know how to cook, clean, and do laundry. I will be relying on them over the next few weeks to help run the house as I recover. I believe that is a valuable skill for them, and they will be blessing our family by developing that skill. 

I am also keeping my copy of Teaching From Rest on my nightstand so I can refer to it often. Sarah's words speak to me, especially during this time in my life! 




I am EMBRACING the less than perfect right now. 

In fact, I think a glorious perfection may come out of the imperfections.

Talk to me about your imperfect homeschool and what you do to simplify your life and homeschool during the less than optimal times!

Less Than Perfect Homeschool




You're a Homeschool Mom? You Are Building Something Amazing!

You're a Homeschool Mom? 

Maybe you're even a NEW homeschool mom? (God bless you.)

Did you know you are building something AMAZING?  

As we prepare for another school year (yes, ours begins next week!) I feel like we all need encouragement. We need to know that what we are doing MATTERS. 

It matters so very, very much. 

God has given me several BIG moments this summer where I could sit back and marvel at what HE is building through a tiny seed He planted in my heart nearly seven years ago. 

That seed has given me the strength to help children learn to read, master times tables, navigate friendship issues, and tackle formal logic! It has given me the strength to keep going when it seemed like the easiest thing to do would be to enroll my children in public school. 

So let me tell you now -- as you anticipate a new school year --  you are building something amazing, and homeschooling your precious children IS WORTH IT!  

You're a Homeschool Mom?  You are Building Something Amazing!

You Can't Always MEASURE What You Are Building

Society tells us that we need to MEASURE our children.

Measure them against each other, against a test score, against Common Core requirements. 

As a homeschool mom, however, you can't always measure accomplishments or progress. 

When my kids were little I measured their progress from my heart:

  • Were they happy and ENJOYING learning?

  • Were they kind to each other?

  • Did they have a thirst for knowledge?

  • Could they sit and read a book without being asked just for enjoyment?

You're a Homeschool Mom? You Are Building Something Amazing!

We learned a lot with Unit Studies and Five in a Row

We took many field trips and earned a lot of Junior Ranger badges. 

I followed my kids' interests wherever they would lead. This set the stage for them to know I was their partner in learning and would support them in their endeavors. 

Did I have TANGIBLE evidence of what was being built?  No, but I knew in my heart I was laying a foundation for something wonderful. 


Sometimes It Feels Like You Are Just HAMMERING Away

Believe me, I understand that many days homeschooling is just HAMMERING AWAY at things. 

If you have a child that is strong-willed or a child with special needs, that hammering can be almost constant. 

There have been MANY evenings when I would just sit down in tears, and tell my husband that the WEIGHT of being responsible for my children's ENTIRE education was just TOO MUCH. 

I would waste valuable time thinking how much BETTER my life would be if I could just get some peace and quiet like moms who send their kids to school. 

I've learned - in times like that - to do a few things to bring myself out of the pit:

  • PRAY!

  • confide in a mentor/friend - be totally honest and seek encouragement

  • take a few days (or weeks) off - your kids will be JUST FINE

  • outsource a subject (or two)

  • seek COMMUNITY - a co-op or homeschool group is so helpful

  • refer to encouragement in one of the 10 Best Books for Homeschool Moms

All of that hammering WILL produce something beautiful. 

It will produce a family that is closer, siblings that have a deeper bond, and children that are more apt to discover their God given gifts on their own terms and time table. 

Believe me - when your kids get into middle and high school, you will start to see the fruits of your labor. 

You're A Homeschool Mom? You Are Building Something Amazing!

Those BIG Moments I'm Having

I told you there have been BIG moments this summer where I just realize God is building something amazing through my homeschooling efforts. 

Can I share just ONE with you? Maybe it will encourage you in your journey? 

My Anna is starting to talk about what she wants to do after high school. She is asking questions about music therapy and working with the special needs population. 

This summer she had several opportunities to volunteer with a special needs ministry through our church. She came home from the special needs VBS and said, "I can't wait until this is what I can do for a living!". 

As a homeschool parent I have the opportunity to foster this interest, design a for-credit high school course for her, and seek out more volunteer opportunities for her.  

THIS IS BIG. 

THIS IS WHY I HOMESCHOOL. 

You're a Homeschool Mom? You Are Building Something Amazing!

In the same short time span, I've found a lot of resources for homeschooling high school. I have been to many college websites and know  I CAN DO THIS. 

God is giving me the signs and encouragement I need to stay the course through homeschooling high school. 

 

Let me hear from you!  Are you new to homeschooling?  A veteran homeschooler?  Do you know you are building something amazing?  Do you have a story to share?  Use the comments below and let me know!

 

If you haven't gotten my free eBook, You CAN Homeschool: Encouragement for the Journey, please feel free to download it. It's a collection of stories and encouragement from our first few years of homeschooling.