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Big Picture Homeschooling

I've reached a point in our homeschool journey where I feel really GOOD about homeschooling.

It is no longer the way we choose to educate our children, it is the way we choose to live our lives.

It feels like this is just how things are SUPPOSED to be - like they were early in our nation's history when people just taught their kids at home and did life with them - together - all the time.

This view of homeschooling changes everything - and it has me asking a BIG question: 

Do we fill our lives with activities and subjects that will TRULY matter when it's all said and done? 

This has been heavy on my heart the past year. 

Perhaps it is because I can see the "finish line" for my oldest, or maybe it is because I can see the last months of childhood slipping away for my youngest as he inches towards being a teenager. 

I want every moment to COUNT. I want everything to be purposeful and meaningful. 

I want TRUTH, BEAUTY, and GOODNESS.

Recently, I was feeling very much this way and recorded those feelings on Instagram

Now that sixth grade is here, the days are FULL of good things. I am fine with having busy kids, as long as there are beauty and purpose in the busy-ness!

And that's just it, isn't it?  BEAUTY and PURPOSE in the busy-ness.  

In order to achieve those ideals it's necessary to know the big picture. Why do we homeschool, and what is our expected outcome? 

What do we REALLY want from homeschool, and what are we doing to nourish the souls we are raising under our own roofs each and every day? 

This year I'm coining a term for myself:  Big Picture Homeschooling

I want to school with the end in mind. I want to school with intention and focus.  

(Hopefully our plans for 10th and 6th grades reflect that intention and focus.)

Big Picture Homeschooling - School each day with the end in mind

Reading through Teaching From Rest (for a THIRD time) is helping me keep focus this year. I love how Sarah writes about ordering our children's affections and not being a slave to curriculum. Oh my - such a great book.  

I get motivated and passionate when I think about Big Picture Homeschooling, but that needs to translate into our every day homeschool, and that is not as easy as it sounds! 

Let's break it down into practical pieces. Wha does big picture homeschooling loos like on a macro and micro level?

What is REALLY Important?  

In our homeschool I needed to decide what was TRULY important. 

Please know this is MY important. It can't be anyone else's important or it won't work. 

Do some soul searching. Pray. Figure out what your goals are for your children's education.

Put aside what the world says education needs to look like.  Stick to what you KNOW education needs to look like for your precious children.  

The four areas of importance in our family are the following:  

Core Academics, Fine Arts, Physical/Spiritual Well Being, and Margin. 

If something doesn't fit into these areas then it's not becoming a part of our days. 

These two children are my mission field. I have one chance to get it right with them, and through God's grace and guidance from the Holy Spirit I pray our Big Picture Homeschooling will help us focus on what is truly important. 

Big Picture Homeschooling: School each day with the end in mind

Core Academics

I've come to love the simplicity of doing less to see greater results. 

This is why we are educating our children Classically.

All of our academics fall into the following areas:

Mathematics

Science 

History

Literature

Grammar & Writing

Language (we choose Latin)

When my children were younger we were more eclectic and at times almost unschoolers. As my children have grown, however, I have seen the time demands creep in and we can no longer pull off those carefree days from the preschool and early elementary years. 

(I will NEVER regret our time spent using Five in Row, designing our own unit studies, or notebooking leisurely through The Story of the World. Those were magical days and there was definitely benefit in those years.)  

When I think about everything I would have missed had we not homeschooled it makes my heart hurt... thank GOD I listened to that small, still voice that told me I could teach my kids at home! 

Currently our core academics are set forth through participation in Challenge II (Anna) and Foundations/Essentials (Grant).  

Fine Arts

Being exposed to the fine arts is a priority in our homeschool.

What better way can our children experience truth, beauty, and goodness, than through music and art? Whether it be simply observing and appreciating, or creating and performing, children need ample time to explore what makes us HUMAN, not to mention the discipline that goes into the fine arts. 

 The kids take piano lessons and of course help with me field testing each and every SQUILT lesson! This year my Anna is branching out to guitar, too - fun! 

We've come to love the 13 Artists Children Should Know series during our Morning Time, and we also adore the mixed media art classes at Flourish. 

Physical / Mental Well Being

One of my favorite things about Big Picture Homeschooling is that as we find opportunities to volunteer, be on sports teams, or whatever it might be that seems SO GOOD at the moment, I can truly choose just a few things to spend our time on.

How does this activity fit into our GOALS for our children?  How does this activity help us fulfill God's call on our lives? 

As my daughter has gotten older she is developing a passion for working with the special needs population. Through our church she works with a wonderful ministry - she works with a music group and also helps with a Bible study and small group ministry.  For the past two years she has been a volunteer for a special needs VBS at our church.

She is expressing a desire to be a music therapist or a special education teacher. 

These volunteer opportunities fit into her BIG PICTURE! 

It isn't that she has "too much homework" or "not enough time" to do these worthwhile activities. 

 I love that we aren't beholden to an academic institution and hours of homework each evening because it allows us to truly tailor Anna's education to her desires and interests.

And don't we want our children to live their lives this way?  Passionately, and with purpose? 

Big Picture Homeschooling - School each day with the end in mind

Let's talk about organized sports, shall we?

I believe in the value of teamwork, and working hard to achieve a goal, but I don't believe in being a slave to a schedule, and putting a sport ahead of family time or time for worship. 

Again, how will this sport fit into our big picture?

Having a pre-teen boy has made me keenly aware of the time suck organized sports can be, so we proceed with caution (because I do have a boy who loves sports and is good at them). I also was NOT happy with many of the team environments we experienced when my son was younger. 

If I had a child that was passionate about a certain sport we would seek opportunities and make time.... but we're not at that point right now. 

Right now, tennis has been a great compromise for us. Learning a sport that can be played your whole life is important, as well as a sport that can be played individually or as a team.  

It is important to be physically fit, so my children know that something physical will be a priority - whether it is tennis, winter basketball, or something else. 

Margin

I've long been a fan of the book Margin.

As my husband and I strive for margin in our own lives, we want to teach our children to have margin, too. 

It's OK to have down time. In fact, it's good to have time to be bored. 

You don't have to be everything to everybody and you don't have to say "Yes" every time someone asks you to do something. 

As I look at the big picture of our homeschool there must always be plenty of time for MARGIN.

I will never regret the hours spent on our back deck reading aloud to my children, and I am so thankful I didn't crowd out that precious time with busyness and silly commitments. 

(and by the way... even the middle school boys love to be read to - we're loving our current read aloud!)


Implementing on a Daily Basis

It's so easy to get caught up in the "busy" of every day life. 

Finally - this year - I feel like our days have purpose, structure, and discipline. Yes, they are busy, but that busyness has a purpose.

Here are a few things we do to bring peace and order to our days - to keep that BIG PICTURE in mind. 

Morning Time

I'm so thankful for my friend, Pam, who has taught me so much about Morning Time. 

Our simple morning basket helps us spend time together each morning focusing on Bible, Latin, Fine Arts, and current events. 

Staying HOME

We're at home every morning of the week (except for our CC community day). No outside commitments creep into that time, and the earliest we are leaving our house is 4:00 for afternoon/evening activities. 

With a 10th and 6th grader we need this time at home to really dig into our school work. We will take breaks to play tennis or run a quick errand or two, but I don't let anything get in the way of our protected school hours. 

(Yes, things come up. I know that. But for the most part we stay home!)

Big Picture Homeschooling

Outsourcing Hard Things

Math and Latin weren't really getting along so well with me the past couple of years. 

Anna takes outside math through Mr. D Math and a Henle Latin class through Memoria Press Online Academy. 

We no longer struggle in these areas, and it has made all of the difference!  Sometimes it's just necessary to have an EXPERT come alongside a homeschooling mom to eliminate confusion.  

"Staying in Our Lane"

This is my new favorite expression.  It's the death of any homeschool when you start to compare yourself to anyone else, or start to copy what works well for your friend down the street.

Find your lane and stay in it!  Don't go in someone else's lane. Stop comparing and start doing! 

 I see this as we homeschool high school. It could be so tempting to look at friends who have kids in traditional school and feel that somehow my children are "missing out" because of a certain subject we aren't studying. Or maybe it is because my kids aren't taking a lot of "AP" classes. Or maybe it is because we aren't hyper focused on college being the ultimate goal of a high school education. 

It takes a whole lot of faith - not fear - to homeschool upper grades!  

I keep telling myself this:  we decided to homeschool because we wanted to step away from the crowd, so why would we follow the crowd from the confines of our own home? 

 

The Big Picture Challenge

I challenge you to look at the BIG PICTUE of your homeschool - and of your life. 

How does what you do with your children each and every day fit into that big picture? 

Are you checking off boxes, meeting requirements, and spinning your wheels, or are you intentionally focused on pursuits that will benefit your children for the rest of their lives?

If we look at our homeschools from this vantage point I believe it changes everything, don't you?

Talk to me about your big picture.

Do you have one?  

What is it?

Have I challenged you to think differently about your homeschool?  

 

The following books have been extremely helpful to me as I think about our big picture:

Big Picture Homeschooling: School each day with the end in mind

Homeschool Requires LOVE

As we are gearing up for a new homeschool year, I've been thinking A LOT about what homeschool REALLY requires.  This series is designed to give an honest picture of homeschool. It is designed to encourage, enlighten, and support you. 

If it challenges you -- all the better!  

Remember:  you cannot depend on a boxed curriculum, franchised community, or local co-op to give you a successful homeschool.  A successful homeschool requires commitment, love, courage, and consistency. 

I just LOVE what a Homegrown Learners Facebook fan said on the page this week:

I absolutely love ______________ (insert homeschool community), mainly because it is a tool to help us stay committed to homeschooling and to continue homeschooling well. But there are many such tools, any of which can become idols that hinder our homeschooling efforts. Thank you for this series!

This series gets us away from those "idols" and will help us examine ourselves.  

We've already explored the commitment homeschool requires.  

This installment of Homeschool Requires will delve into a sensitive area.  

Love.

Did you miss an installment in the series?  Don't worry - find them all here

Homeschool Requires Love: Part 2 in the straight talk series about homeschooling at Homegrown Learners

I often get so caught up in the nitty gritty details of homeschool that I forget to show to love my kiddos.  

Something as basic as showing love each and every day can make such a difference in our homeschool, but there have been days when it has eluded me. 

I love writing a blog because it forces me to take a long, hard look at MYSELF.  

Here is a challenge for all of us:  

What if we made it a priority this year to SHOW LOVE EXCESSIVELY to our children?  What if we put that ahead of mastering math facts, spelling tests, and science experiments? What if we showed love excessively on the worst days of our homeschool?  

What if SHOWING LOVE was our focus this year?


 I often forget to show love because I am so COMMITTED to homeschooling them well. I forget the most basic requirement of not only homeschooling - but motherhood in general, and that is to show my children LOVE unconditionally and often. 

Read The 5 Love Languages of Children. Have your children discover their own love language (a free online tool).  

I want to keep loving my kids front and center this year so I've created a list of 25 Ways to Show Love in Your Homeschool Day. Print this and put it in your planner, homeschool mom binder, or wherever else you might be forced to see it EVERY DAY.  

Scroll to the end of the post to download a FREE PRINTABLE of the bullet point version of this list.  (But, I do hope you read this post, because I expand on each of the 25 ways and include links, ideas, and lots more to get you motivated!)


25 Ways to Show Love in Your Homeschool Day

1. Give hugs  

It's easy to hug on our little ones, isn't it?  As our children age we need to keep pursuing them.  Physical touch is important to our teens. 

2. Smile a lot

Do you ever stop during the day and check your demeanor?  Do you smile enough? I know how much a smile from my kiddos warms my heart, so I can only imagine what a smile from mom does for them.  

3. Be silly

I don't know why I feel like I have to be the "strict teacher" during our homeschool day. Who says math can't be fun?  I remember pulling out every stuffed animal in my son's closet once to illustrate story problems. I gave them all different voices and personalities and we had the BEST time.  

(Being silly is super good for the homeschool mom's mental health, too.)

4. Give compliments

Do you compliment your children more than you criticize them? I am guilty of having impossibly high standards, and I've had to make an effort to compliment my children. Don't make the compliments hollow - be genuine.  You can ALWAYS find something good about what your children are doing.  

5. Show patience

This one is EXTRA HARD for me. When we are in the middle of an Algebra breakdown, the best thing I can do is hold my tongue, keep my patience, and breathe. My children need to know I love them regardless of their understanding of any academic subject, and showing patience is essential. 

6. Give them M&Ms

25 Ways to Show Love in Your Homeschool

Ok, maybe not M&Ms - just whatever food treat speaks to your child. My kids love M&Ms, and when I unexpectedly set down a muffin cup of M&Ms in front of them (during their hardest subject), it conveys a lot of LOVE. 

Tip:  Candy is a wonderful motivator for kids who don't like to do math drills - just sayin'.

7. Play games

Incorporate fun games into your homeschool day. Our children will remember a mom that made learning FUN. Even if you aren't a mom that enjoys playing games, you can make it through Yahtzee, UNO, or yes - even a game of Monopoly.  

Designate one entire school day as a game day. You'll be amazed at the fun you have.

8. Listen

Do we really LISTEN to how our children are feeling about something? Or, do we just continue on with the lesson plan even if it means our kids are miserable? 

If our children sit down for their school day with something bothering them, stop and LISTEN to them. We're homeschooling because we want to seize those important times with our children, and listening is the best way to do that.

9. Read Aloud

No matter their age, reading aloud signifies a mom's willingness to slow down and invest in her children. The cuddles and connections during read aloud time are so precious. 

We have made so many memories this way, and I am collecting quite a list of favorites, too! 

And yes, teens love to be read to, as well.  

10. Apologize

Nothing says "I love you" more strongly than apologizing to our children when we have wronged them. It's very simple, but not always so easy to do. 

11. Plan ahead

Stick with me on this one. Planning ahead allows for us to enjoy our homeschool days more. If we're not flying by the seat of our pants, we are smiling more, laughing more, and able to incorporate more fun things with our children because we know we've planned well and have the basics covered. 

This year I'm putting extra time into planning, knowing that it will pay off in spades throughout the school year. 

(I am using this great tool for homeschool moms and it's been so helpful.)

Plan Your Year Homeschool Planner

12. Say "I love you."

Sounds obvious, right?  

Maybe not so much.  

I tell my children I love them a lot, but recently I've been making an effort to look them straight in the eye and say "I love you."  It's not a causal "I love you" as they are walking out the door, or sent via text (remember I am the mom of a teen), it's taking the time to connect and say the words with intention and feeling. 

13. Create special days

My son still remembers the day I woke him up and said, "No school today!  It's ANGRY BIRDS DAY!"   We did nothing but Angry Birds themed activities all day - and while it did take some planning on my part it was entirely worth it!

14. Speak your child's love language

My oldest child's love language is quality time.  Let me rephrase that.  Her love language is Starbucks time! 

Taking my daughter out for a fancy coffee, just the two of us, speaks her love language. 

My son's love language is physical touch, so lots of hugs and cuddles (even as he's getting older) mean a lot to him.   

If you haven't read Gary Chapman's book, you really should. 

15. Have a party for no reason

This is one straight from my own childhood.

I can vividly remember being 7 years old and very sad because my brother had gone away to college - which left me at home as an only child. One day I got off the bus and walked home, and when I arrived there was a huge sign on the front door that said, "Happy Birthday!"  It wasn't my birthday, nor was it anyone's birthday in my family. My mom had created an entire birthday party for my stuffed animals. 

She baked a cake, sewed a few of them little birthday outfits, and even got them "presents".  

I still remember this day - 37 years later. 

It was through little things like this  I just knew my mom loved me, and she showed it in so many special ways.  

So, when homeschool starts getting rough in the middle of the winter -- have a party for no reason! 

16. Read the Bible every day

Your children will know you love them because you are investing in the most important thing with them - knowing God's word. 

We've used the Charlotte Mason scripture memory system to hide God's word in our hearts. We've also enjoyed Jesus Calling and At The Table Family Devotions

17. Discipline

Deep down, children don't want to get away with bad things. They crave structure and discipline. 

Another post in this series will talk about homeschooling and CONSISTENCY... and we must discipline our children with love and consistency if we are to be successful parents.  

18. Bake with them

Some of our fondest memories have been created in the kitchen, baking together. It's a time when we can talk, be silly - and even LEARN a lot, too.  

We've had book dinners, which have required a lot of prep time in the kitchen. These dinners, which would usually center around our current Five in a Row book, not only were learning experiences, but experiences of our hearts, too. 

19. Get outside

Sometimes, when a homeschool day had spiraled downward quickly, getting outside and going for a nature walk was the best medicine. 

There's something about being surrounded by God's majesty that just made it EASIER for me to show my kids I loved them. Everyone was happier, the grumpiness was left inside the house, and our moods all changed. 

Please don't think there isn't time for nature walks and leisurely afternoons. Nothing could be further from the truth.

20. Forgive

Our children need to know we forgive them - for whatever they have done, no matter the severity.

Saying the words, "I forgive you" and then following up with a hug, smile, or listening ear are so very important. 

21. Do something your kids love (but you don't)

I don't really ENJOY playing LEGOS, but my son loves it when I ask him if I can build something with him. 

My daughter likes it when I just sit and read a book next to her while she is reading a book, too.  So simple, right?  

Our willingness to step out of ourselves for our children shows them we love them. (And, you might surprise yourself by trying something you didn't think you'd like.)

22. Do something unexpected

When things get rough in your homeschool, try something unexpected.

What if you brought home a gallon of double fudge ice cream, turned on a fun movie, and curled up on the sofa with your kids and some spoons? 

What if you hooked up the hose, put on your bathing suit, collected the water guns, and offered to play outside in the summer heat?

Whatever it is for you that would be unexpected, do it! 

23. Lavish praise

Do you remember to praise your kids?  This goes along with complimenting them.

Do you point out all of the good they are doing, or do you just nitpick what they AREN'T doing well?  

Once you find the good, reinforce it verbally.

Do you say "Good job", "I know you can do this", or "You amaze me"? 

 

24. Don't overcommit

Homeschool moms have a tendency to be generous and giving. 

Don't let this very good quality turn into your very worse quality. 

Limit your activities so you can focus on WHY you are homeschooling in the first place - your children. If you are too busy volunteering at church and helping every friend in need your own family will suffer .

The best way to show your children is to exercise restraint in your commitments and make homeschooling a priority.  

One day your children will be grown and you want to look back on the years you had with them and not have regrets. 

25 Ways to Show Love in Your Homeschool

(How did my own children get this big?)

25. Pray

Praying for you children is the ultimate way to show them you love them.  When we lift up our children and their needs to our Father we are showing our children the first line of defense in any problem.  

Don't ever forget to pray for your children.


Put it in a prominent place in your home. Place it in the front of your homeschool mom binder. Put it in your morning time basket.  We all LOVE our kids fiercely, but we need reminders to SHOW that love on a daily (and hourly!) basis.  


This post is the second in the series - Homeschool Requires. 

Click here to read part 1: Homeschool Requires Commitment

 

And now I'd love to hear from you!  Do you have creative ways to show love in your homeschool day?  Do you find it hard on certain days to show love. Do you just need to be reminded?